don't underestimate the couple

There are some husbands or wives, who may also have a habit of disparaging her partner. Whatever the reason and however, underestimate the situation is something that couples should not be conditioned in a family. It is possible that this sort of thing starts from just kidding by saying something patronizing our spouses, although the goal is only to meledek, as said or insinuated something could not be done by the husband or wife, partner or lack meledek compare with others.

Disparaging attitude spouse, though in simple things same, meaning we emulate the seed of dissension in the household. Slowly but surely, she became a boomerang to us and can turn into a major dispute. If it is so, then don't expect a wonderful family harmony will be realized.

Understatement is the attitude of looking at trivial or unimportant or pass judgement under the objective value which should be given, either by word or deed, the attitude to others. The husband has a habit of doing so usually tend not to appreciate his wife feel less with what has worked on his wife and never say "thank you" for his kindness and devotion.

Vice versa, the wife who likes to belittle her husband will assess every exertion the husband as an ordinary effort, or even considered substandard, feeling always less with the awarding of the husband, and reluctant to obey every command and the words of her husband. In fact, the Prophet sallallaahu ' alaihi wa sallam reminds the faithful that someone is always keeping his words of utter something futile, by always choosing between said good or silent. Messenger of Allaah ' alaihi wa sallam said,

مَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ فَلْيَقُلْ خَيْرًا، أَوْ لِيَصْمُتْ

"Whosoever shall believe in God and the last day, let say well or be quiet." (Narrated By Muslim)

Habit of patronizing attitude can develop into pairs or Word that is demeaning. Condescending attitude life partner can be addressed directly to the husband or wife or thus exposed with so bersemangatnya in the presence of others. Any flaws whatsoever be not harmonious and the split seems to just wait for the time.

The attitude of belittling or degrading life partner not to exist and flourish in a muslim family. Was supposed to each party understand and accept any shortcomings and advantages of a mate. Avoid disparaging or demeaning couples obliged to do if indeed we willed sakinah, mawadah predicates, and nurses.